It is very obvious from Col. 3, Eph. 5 and 1 Pet. 3 that way we operate in our God-given roles in marriage is a direct indicator of how much we fear and trust Jesus Christ.  In other words, in the case of Eph. 5:22, submitting to one’s own husband is one of the ways that women submits to the Lord.

To state it the other way–a woman cannot claim to submit to Christ nor can she claim to love Christ (according to John 14:15) if she does not submit to her husband.  If she tries to blow off this command as a 1st century, antiquated, human suggestion, then her relationship with Christ will be severely hindered.

The same would go for the husband.  If he refuses to love and honor his wife, he cannot claim to love the Lord Jesus Christ and the gospel will be marred in his representation to those inside and outside his home.  This is precisely Paul’s correlation in Eph. 5:32.