In 1 Peter 3:7, the initial command given to husbands is to live with their wives according to knowledge.  Here are some further considerations with regards to this:

–Living with one’s wife according to knowledge does NOT mean that the relationship expectations should mimic the relationship the husband has with his buddies.
–Living with one’s wife according to knowledge does NOT mean that the husband is to treat his wife how his mother or sisters wanted to be treated.
–Living with one’s wife according to knowledge involves a growing understanding of her, instead of operating only by preconceived notions.
— Living with one’s wife according to knowledge will take time, effort and a genuine interest in one’s wife to obey God in this area.  Hobbies, lazy communication and other forms of selfishness will have to be forsaken in order to accomplish this.