Self-protection is a more subtle obstacle than self-infatuation, even though it is a form of it. Because of the definition of manhood, namely taking responsibility and leading out in front in some way, it is risky to step into something like that: “What if I serve or lead and I’m exposed for having a deficiency or a weakness? What if my efforts are not appreciated or even worse, criticized? If I don’t lead, at least I won’t be classified as a bad leader.”
Of course, that last statement is full of ignorance, since it is especially true for the men in the role of a husband, that they are leading—it’s just a matter of how or where. Moreover, this self-protection is really a quest to protect one’s image or reputation or self-esteem. All of those options are clearly idolatrous and represent clinging to sinful pursuits while rejecting Christ as Lord.